Be Yourself, peace is easy when you know where to look.

One deadly misconception that limits many in the Eastern and Western spiritual scene, whether it is new age philosophies or religious philosophies, is the idea that it is very difficult to know true freedom from our negative feelings, beliefs, desires and emotions. Nothing could be farther from the truth!

Another area that leaves many seekers stuck or want-to-be seekers put off, is the confusion and lack of clarity around what role the teacher has in helping them realize this freedom from personal suffering. Whether you consider your teacher to be Jesus Christ, Muhammed, Buddha, Osho, Papaji, John Doe or your local minister combined with any of the above, you would be wise to know exactly what role they should be playing in your quest for inner peace and daily happiness. So you can truly grow and not be limited by them or their followers in any way.

We all have the potential to be empowered, to wake up and to be enlightened, because it is our birthright. It is not something special, elite and unreachable, bestowed upon a chosen few. This is just another shameful misdirection to keep control and manipulate you into being a follower, rather than blossoming into a powerful leader.  Remember leading is not just about leading other people - it's just as much about leading yourself. Leading yourself out of a life of unawareness, dishonesty and negativity, into a life of self-awareness, integrity and positivity. Do this and you will become a great inspiration to every one around you.

Do not let the achievements of others distract you or make you believe that happiness and real greatness is an impossible goal for you to reach out for, or that you could never attain profound peace in your daily life while living an ordinary and simple life. We don’t all need to become a Mother Teresa or a Dalai Lama to greatly affect the world and inspire the people around us. I come from the "keep it simple" school of philosophy and aspire to this; to bring the best attitude to each day, to each moment. To give my full heart to everything that I do, even the simple mundane tasks of life can be performed with the greatest care, heart and attention to detail. That’s what makes your life become a continuous meditation, a dance with divinity, a sacred pilgrimage.

The Gift of Life

Be the best you can be in the here and now, and fully embrace the gift we take for granted - life itself. Without life and a body to experience the world through, is there really any point to all this madness and chaos life can appear to be? Without life itself, that house you worked your butt off to pay for, may just as well be a sandcastle on the beach. Without life itself the bachelor’s degree that you gave up every pleasure to achieve may just as well be used as fancy wallpaper.

What am I trying to say here? Do everything you love and enjoy doing for the sheer joy of giving your best to everything you do. Live with passion and intensity and do not lose your joy of living for more material possessions. Do not lose your ability to laugh, be playful, kind, and feel deep contentment just to own a house in a “dream world.” Receive life with open arms and full awareness of each new moment as it is happening and unfolding. Have the courage to do only that, which brings joy to your heart. In this way, you can be an inspiration to others.

Do not underestimate the importance of your positive attitude, high spirits and enthusiasm to live. It is worth more than any amount of money. Ask your friends and family if you don't believe me, or better still ask yourself. Find a path that will allow you to have it all; financial security, success and happiness because you love what you do. Remember you can greatly influence your outer reality by what you think and believe is possible. Wake up to the now. Wake up from the dream of time and start living in the now. You will be relieved and empowered.

Each day you have to breathe, you can create something special, joyful and loving around you. It does not matter how poor or rich you are, this moment, like death, doesn't care about that. It offers empowerment to all those who seek its truth. Allow this truth to become a fire in your life that burns away all illusions of time. Being in the now is freedom from the suffering of the past and also freedom from the fear and uncertainty of the future, which of cause may never come.

The more people that could wake up to the power of the now, the more love, compassion and acceptance we would start manifesting into this amazingly beautiful, dreamy and magically crazy world of ours.

Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill is a great read that tells you a lot about how you can use thinking to do, be and achieve what ever your heart desires. The concept is that belief can shift, change and alter reality. Creating miracles through perseverance and a determination that comes from mental prowess and cultivating a winning attitude. The phenomenon of positive thinking is not a new concept and yet implementing its power into our daily lives is still a foreign concept to most mere mortals!

How can we become better at positive thinking? How can we easily shift our focus on the positive? The answer is very simple, focus on how you feel. Try to keep adjusting your focus so you feel good in this moment. When you feel good, you will naturally have more positive thoughts.

There are really only two ways to feel in the now, varying levels of good( great, awesome and off the Richter scale amazing!! and so on) and varying degrees of bad ( sad, worried, depressed and so on) How we feel choose to feel is totally in our hands. Where you put your focus now, will greatly affect how you feel.

Focus on all the good things in your life and you will feel better. Train yourself to feel good in the now and you will automatically become a more positive thinker and therefore increase your ability to use your most powerful instrument(your brain) more effectively.

We freely and happily invest in food, clothing and grooming and yet when it comes to investing time into our spiritual and emotional well-being we are suddenly too busy or find other excuses. The funniest excuse being I don't need to do that! All your efforts towards success will fail when your head is constantly taking you full speed down negative lane, so investing in your internal  wellbeing will give you access to a powerful ability to manifest your desires and live a truly joyful life.

Clarity of mind is important and comes from knowing how to take charge of your inner mental and emotional dialogue. Meditation is undoubtedly one of the most effective (and dare I say fun and easiest!!) ways to take charge of your mind because you are working with the most natural and powerful cure, "silence". Silence is to the soul what water is to the body, expose yourself to it and feeling good in the now will become your natural state in daily life. Invest in your well-being and thrive.

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Brain Can Be Trained in Compassion, Study Shows

A new study by researchers at the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center of the University of Wisconsin-Madison shows that adults can be trained to be more compassionate. The report, published Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, investigates whether training adults in compassion can result in greater altruistic behavior and related changes in neural systems underlying compassion.

"Our fundamental question was, 'Can compassion be trained and learned in adults? Can we become more caring if we practice that mindset?'" says Helen Weng, lead author of the study and a graduate student in clinical psychology. "Our evidence points to yes."

In the study, the investigators trained young adults to engage in compassion meditation, an ancient Buddhist technique to increase caring feelings for people who are suffering. In the meditation, participants envisioned a time when someone has suffered and then practiced wishing that his or her suffering was relieved. They repeated phrases to help them focus on compassion such as, "May you be free from suffering. May you have joy and ease."

Participants practiced with different categories of people, first starting with a loved one, someone whom they easily felt compassion for, like a friend or family member. Then, they practiced compassion for themselves and, then, a stranger. Finally, they practiced compassion for someone they actively had conflict with called the "difficult person," such as a troublesome coworker or roommate.

"It's kind of like weight training," Weng says. "Using this systematic approach, we found that people can actually build up their compassion 'muscle' and respond to others' suffering with care and a desire to help."

Compassion training was compared to a control group that learned cognitive reappraisal, a technique where people learn to reframe their thoughts to feel less negative. Both groups listened to guided audio instructions over the Internet for 30 minutes per day for two weeks. "We wanted to investigate whether people could begin to change their emotional habits in a relatively short period of time," says Weng.

The real test of whether compassion could be trained was to see if people would be willing to be more altruistic -- even helping people they had never met. The research tested this by asking the participants to play a game in which they were given the opportunity to spend their own money to respond to someone in need (called the "Redistribution Game"). They played the game over the Internet with two anonymous players, the "Dictator" and the "Victim." They watched as the Dictator shared an unfair amount of money (only $1 out of $10) with the Victim. They then decided how much of their own money to spend (out of $5) in order to equalize the unfair split and redistribute funds from the Dictator to the Victim.

"We found that people trained in compassion were more likely to spend their own money altruistically to help someone who was treated unfairly than those who were trained in cognitive reappraisal," Weng says.

"We wanted to see what changed inside the brains of people who gave more to someone in need. How are they responding to suffering differently now?" asks Weng. The study measured changes in brain responses using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) before and after training. In the MRI scanner, participants viewed images depicting human suffering, such as a crying child or a burn victim, and generated feelings of compassion towards the people using their practiced skills. The control group was exposed to the same images, and asked to recast them in a more positive light as in reappraisal.

The researchers measured how much brain activity had changed from the beginning to the end of the training, and found that the people who were the most altruistic after compassion training were the ones who showed the most brain changes when viewing human suffering. They found that activity was increased in the inferior parietal cortex, a region involved in empathy and understanding others. Compassion training also increased activity in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and the extent to which it communicated with the nucleus accumbens, brain regions involved in emotion regulation and positive emotions.

"People seem to become more sensitive to other people's suffering, but this is challenging emotionally. They learn to regulate their emotions so that they approach people's suffering with caring and wanting to help rather than turning away," explains Weng.

Compassion, like physical and academic skills, appears to be something that is not fixed, but rather can be enhanced with training and practice. "The fact that alterations in brain function were observed after just a total of seven hours of training is remarkable," explains UW-Madison psychology and psychiatry professor Richard J. Davidson, founder and chair of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds and senior author of the article.

"There are many possible applications of this type of training," Davidson says. "Compassion and kindness training in schools can help children learn to be attuned to their own emotions as well as those of others, which may decrease bullying. Compassion training also may benefit people who have social challenges such as social anxiety or antisocial behavior."

Weng is also excited about how compassion training can help the general population. "We studied the effects of this training with healthy participants, which demonstrated that this can help the average person. I would love for more people to access the training and try it for a week or two -- what changes do they see in their own lives?"

Both compassion and reappraisal trainings are available on the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds' website. "I think we are only scratching the surface of how compassion can transform people's lives," says Weng.

Other authors on the paper were Andrew S. Fox, Alexander J. Shackman, Diane E. Stodola, Jessica Z. K. Caldwell, Matthew C. Olson, and Gregory M. Rogers.

The work was supported by funds from the National Institutes of Health; a Hertz Award to the UW-Madison Department of Psychology; the Fetzer Institute; The John Templeton Foundation; the Impact Foundation; the J. W. Kluge Foundation; the Mental Insight Foundation; the Mind and Life Institute; and gifts from Bryant Wanguard, Ralph Robinson, and Keith and Arlene Bronstein.

Free at Last

Freedom is relative and a very interesting thing to explore in-depth! Unless you are free of the mental limitations you put on yourself, other people and on what the world has to offer... real freedom is going to be impossible to truly experience.

How many people do you know who are feel stuck in certain relationships, jobs, studies, debts, home mortgages and all different kind of situations? How many people do you know that are even prisoners of their own beliefs? I could never earn that much money, this will never work out, I will never find a good enough partner? Wether it is the prison of your desires or the prison of your fears, both prisons should be avoided!

I heard a brilliant speech the other day from a Toastmaster friend of mine Manuel Gomez. (http://www.toastmasters.org) He had been invited to speak in a prison and through that experienced he discovered that although he may not be locked behind real bars he need to release himself from the limiting prison of his mind and his own beliefs. An amazingly inspiring Prisoner had also spoken during his visit to the prison......the Prisoner spoke of a freedom that had nothing to do with keys, locks and chains. A freedom that was without limit or restraint.

The man shared how he needed the grey nightmare of the prison to realize the real prison was his mind and how in prison he had  found his real freedom. A freedom and peace that lies in all of us, waiting for us to reclaim it. Some of us need to be pushed to breaking point before we yield enough to discover it!! It's a freedom we all have tasted as we were born knowing the joys of that kind of freedom.

Realization is the first step to rediscovering this kind of freedom
and change is harder when we resist it. Unless you see that you are a prisoner you will never know what freedom feels like. I invite you to release yourself from beliefs that limit you, others and the world around you..... No dream should be too much, no heart too small, so person too stupid, release yourself and others from the prison of limited thinking, because when it comes to freedom, if you can think it ...chances are high you can achieve it.

Feel free to go outside the walls of what you believe is possible.