WHAT WE DON'T SAY MATTERS

WHAT WE DON'T SAY MATTERS

Do you sometimes get the feeling that we are loosing our ability to trust each other? Do you get the feeling that a promise just does not mean what it used to? A man's word meant a lot in the old days and that now words just don't seem to mean as much. But instead of complaining about this, what can we do about it? How we contribute to a more honest and trusting environment, where our words truly mean something, in both our personal and work relationships?

MAKE YOUR WORDS COUNT

Let us call upon our highest integrity and speak from there. Rather learn to say no and be more honest. We are terrified of real truth, almost as much as we are terrified of lies and liars! Truth has one major advantage, it allows you to live in the reality of what is. Would you rather someone was truly enjoying your company than pretending they were because they are too afraid to tell you the truth? Do we ignore someones emails instead of taking the time to respectfully explain to them why we no longer wish to communicate with them? On the surface this all seems harmless, but an emotionally intelligent being knows better than to stuff emotions away, hoping they will disappear with time.

TIME CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH

Stuffing down the truth only leads to trouble sooner or later. How many dramas have unfolded and exploded in your life, simply because you did not tell the truth about what you were feeling and thinking? Yes with time the pain of promises broken, expectation not met and so forth, may seem to fade away, but in not dealing bravely and honestly with people, numbness may set in. You may become disconnected, depressed, jaded and cynical of all happy people. Finding their enthusiasm and optimism nauseating and somewhat naive! 

DECIDE TO DEAL WITH IT

To keep our own integrity and light hearted bubbliness we are going to have to work on finding innovative ways of dealing with other peoples "trips" in a better way than just ignoring them, lying to them and hoping that in time we will feel less annoyed or hurt. Did you know that every single person on this planet is the same as you? Beyond the obvious differences like male, female, race, social standing and education. Yes on the personality level the human being covers all the colours of the rainbow, but on a soul level, spirit level, god level, energy level ...whatever you prefer to call it....we are the same. Its in the understanding of this idea and philosophy  that you grow into a more tolerant, honest and compassionate human being.

SEE BEYOND THE DIFFERENCES

When we start looking at others and the world, as part of who we are, as opposed to something separate from us our integrity increases. We start to realise that we should treat every person in the same manner in which we wish to be treated. Especially the ones we don't like! Especially the ones we love to judge and complain about! Do you like it when people lie to you, even about little things? Do you like it when people ignore you instead of having the courage to face you with honesty and openness. We can dramatically change the world by changing ourselves.....working on who we are..rather than judging who "they" are.

What Were you Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?

Did you know that you become what you think about most of the time? What do you think about most of the time? Get control over your thoughts and you will start creating a life that surpasses all your greatest expectations. The secret is sticking with the dream idea long enough for it to come into fruition, most of us change our mind constantly, killing the flow that we set in motion to manifest our desires. Do you sometimes wish you had the “je ne sais quoi “ to be even bolder and more consistent in the thoughts you are putting out there.

Why is thinking positive so important? 

Science now fully confirms what philosophers have been saying all along, our thoughts and feelings are energetic frequencies that we broadcast into the world around us. We draw in the same frequency we are vibrating on. Another tip being supported by scientific research is that meditation and mindfulness workouts are by far the most effective and innovative tools on the market  to rapidly train yourself to think and feel, and therefore act more positive. Leading you to greater success results at work and in your relationships and family life.

Our feelings define our thoughts.

Feeling good, leads to better-quality thinking and superior manifesting results. Your words contribute massively in creating your emotional state of being. Do you choose your words wisely? Just notice how you feel physically and emotionally after a negative verbal or online interaction, even complaining will no longer feel like a harmless pass time.Our actions are a result of what we think and feel. If we are stuck in more negative thoughts and feelings, than in positive thoughts and feelings this is going to affect our actions and our ability to act with more tolerance, compassion and kindness to all people.

It is not a question of being a "good" person

Think about the times in your life when one “weird” thing after the next happened, causing you to feel really bad and therefore attracting even more negative experiences, events and people into your life. Bottom line is this, what we think and feel matters, a lot! It is the driving wheel of your freewill. Without gaining the ability to think positive thoughts consistently and feel intense positive feelings on a daily basis…you will become a magnet to negative events, situations and people, because of the negative frequency you are putting out there. Now don’t confuse this with being a good person. You can be a very good, loving and kind person, but if you don’t feel good, peaceful and clear. This will have a damaging effect on your ability to effortlessly draw in wonderful experiences, exciting opportunities and amazing people into your life.

A life full of happiness

Happiness is the new productivity
Happiness is becoming a intense topic of conversation, in a world were more people are getting totally out of balance emotionally and physically. People are starting to realize that happiness it is not just a given, but something that has to be cultivated and developed, with passion and enthusiasm.

Live the Happiness Movement

Why do we need to take time out to actively seek it and learn how to "be happy"? Because we all know that everything becomes easier when we feel good. When we are uplifted, motivated and focused, we feel powerful and fearless. We feel like we can deal with anything life throws at us when we are not consumed with negative thoughts and feels. Feeling Negative and sad makes you distracted, confused and reduces your ability to perform as you would like to.

Beat the Blues

Our mind is our greatest asset. It is our magic wand and our genie in a bottle - when we know how to use it so it works for us and not against us. Meditation, mindfulness, contemplation is by far the most effective way to directly train your mind to be still and quiet. Quiet your mind and you instantly feel happier! Meditation practice is more than a stress relief tool and more like a powerful way to create and influence your reality. It puts your emotional vibrational frequency on a level that will literally start making magical things to start happening in your life.

Most people try to compare meditation with jogging or other sports that they enjoy doing, thinking that the results are similar. Nothing could be furthest from the truth. The difference is that in meditation you are only working exclusively on training, tuning and developing your "mind power" to operate at a level of awareness that puts you into touch with a "life perspective" that is fully peace, harmony and joy oriented.

Comparing doing sports that undoubtedly make you feel good, to sitting silently and actively training your mind to rewire your brain and create new neural pathways for success and happiness is equivalent to saying a tomato and a potato are the same thing  Sure they both belong to the veg family but you just cannot make a yummy gratin out of tomatoes or a pasta sauce out of potatoes!

Sports will make you feel great, no question, but Meditation will give you the edge in everything you do. It will make you do everything that you do better! That is why highly successful people all over the world are now taking the time to train their ability to be more happy and peaceful in the now, through actively engaging in training their mind to be quiet, getting connected with what is known as an "alfa mind state." 

Compassion is About Opening Your Eyes

Compassion is About Opening Your Eyes to the Bigger Picture

Bigger Picture
What is the bigger picture, and how do we stay focused on it? The bigger picture view point is all about being able to see through time and space and not just what is in front of you at any given moment. Most of us see our lives and what is happening to us, as if it is separate from the world and everything else that is going on.

The Truth

The truth is that we are not separate from everything thats going on. We are intrinsically and deeply connected to the world around us. It may sound a bit like something from a sic-fi movie, but science is confirming what spiritual gurus and yogis have been saying for centuries.

We are One

The problem we have is that most of us can't feel or see this "one connection" and that is why we have a hard time buying into its existence in the first place. Also owning up to this deep connection to everything around us, would mean that we can no longer blame everybody else for our problems.

Living the Truth

It would mean that we need to take full responsibility for how we contribute to everything that is going on around us, and even the stuff that is going on millions of miles away from us on the other side of the globe. We would have to consider how our actions, thoughts and beliefs contribute to the overall reality we call life on earth.

Contribute Now

Are we really doing everything we can to contribute to a better now, or are we waiting for someone else to do something to make our lives better and make the world better.  Its starts with the simple things like whether we recycle, or become more aware of how certain things like the food we eat, the furniture we buy, may affect the planet and the world more negatively than we previously realized.

Compassion is an Action

Being a more conscious and compassionate person should not be something we do to impress others, but something we do because we genuinely care for the wellbeing and happiness of all people around the world. Whether we like them, or agree with the culture or politics, real compassion goes beyond that and returns to the fact that we are all connected and everything we do, say or think has an effect on how the world is. Take action now, to develop a more profound view of your role in this world.

Develop the Power to Keep Getting Up

Develop The Power to Keep Getting Up
Deeply understand that whatever you wish to have, do or be, will come to you when you realize this ago old truth: most of the battle is won in your head and heart.
If you can believe it with a strong steely determination and use the hearts energy as fuel to keep the engine going, come what may. Then you will be well equipped to go after just about any dream you have. Be inspired by this TED talk . This lady is extraordinary and her story awesome!!!

Let the Battle Commence
And make no mistake about it, to achieve "extraordinary" you will have to wage war and claim your territory....mentally and emotionally. We are our own greatest enemy, and unless we develop the ability to fight for what we want and believe in, we will loose the joy of living. The battle against the negative thoughts and feelings that hold us back from going for it has to be taken on. How?

Get Fired up
We are going to need to get fired up, lit up, pumped up and tackle the journey with all guns blazing, metaphorically speaking of course! We will need to dig deep and not just once, but again and again and again. What makes it easier? Developing our ability to go the distance spiritually through shared support and guidance in matters of the heart and mind.

Skills Can Only Get You So far
It is wonderful to be skilled and to have strong talents you can draw from, but you cannot rely on these alone to go the distance and make the journey fun. For that you will need, spirit, humor, clarity and people who help you keep those levels high! We should never underestimate the importance of self preservation through building inner strength of character.

Empower Network
Even if you think, my life is perfect, I want nothing more than things to keep going on as they do now, I have all I would ever need to be happy. Even if you think all this you will still have wage the battle of the restless mind and the challenge of the human interaction, as no man is an island. And for that battle to be won you will need some mad inner skills, like a huge open loving heart, a crystal clear mind and a whole lot of patience!

Warrior within
So whatever you now reality maybe, invest in your spirit. Build your tolerance and cultivate the warrior within. Toughen up as you soften up. Become immune to self doubt and fear. Sharpen your conviction and fight the inner war clean and fair, using love and peace in the now as your weapons of mass destruction to annihilate any idea of ever giving up on those things that matter to you.

An adventure into the now!

Self-Exploration
To journey within is as exciting as visiting a colorful reef, a beautiful island, a remote mountain path or a magical urban jungle! Within us lies unclaimed territory, pristine stillness and a beauty that is beyond belief. And yet we cling to the outer journey with such intensity that we loose touch with this deep inner valley of peace and joy!

The Book
I have been pregnant with this book since about 10 years! And finally have given birth to it. I want to share some of my life experiences that have shaped my now reality, and made me the person I am today. I will  of course continue to evolve, grow, learn and transform, as that is the awesome essence of living.

What Can You Expect From the Book?
I wanted to make it  clear that awakening, meditation, love and happiness is totally possible for ANY one who seeks this. With BEING in the NOW as the goal, there is ulimately NO end goal. Only the endless, timeless, unfolding of THIS precious moment

Self- Discovery
In my book I gently but firmly guide you back or deeper into this sun filled valley, this inner sanctuary which transforms people and lives. This knowledge that carries you out of unnecessary mental and emotional suffering and into a more peaceful mindset, that allows you to smile, laugh and live MORE. ...because you discover the power and truth of the now.

An Adventure into The Now
Everything we need is right now, right here in front of us. We do not need to wait, to reclaim our birthright. We came into this world illuminated and that is what we are and that is what and how we shall leave. To understand this is to know that all humans whatever their, problems, personality or situation in life, are made of the same essence. Like everything else in this universe we are made of the same stuff - energy. Knowing this beyond thinking about it, is the true meaning of compassion and love.

 Discover Simplicity
Nothing gives me more pleasure that to see a person discover there inner world. The power within them, the magnificence and clarity that can be experienced just by choosing to honor silence and step into stillness. When they allow themselves to return to the truth and rest there basking in the simplicity. 

Determination a Powerful Resource.

Determination
Is what I needed, in abundance, to be able to now share the joy of finishing my first book, "A Rebel's Guide to Inner Peace".....Live the Moment.  Determination has become a highly underestimated human resource. How determined are you to keep going to achieve your greatest goals? Are you tired and feeling exhausted and uninspired on your chosen path? Whether you are trying to loose weight, improve your relationships, reach new financial goals, lots of determination will be needed to succeed.


How do we stay focused?
By looking within us and digging deep to find the gold nuggets! By reprograming our minds and by changing our limited perspectives. Where can you get the discipline to do all this? The best way I ever found was by having a mentor and teacher. My teachers taught me how to be tenacious in the face of challenges and set backs. It all lies in your ability to stay inspired and motivated. Invest time into your personal development, do things differently..starting right now.


Staying motivated
There is a simple secret to this, truth is always simple! When you make it all about the journey and not the destination, you will be able to keep the fire to succeed fueled with the right thoughts, feelings and actions. Motivation can come from many sources. You could even positively transform your negative emotions like anger, rage and even deep sadness into steely determination, that you can use to propel you onto the the next step on your path.
Contemplate this, for a moment...


Transform Negative Emotions
Determination and perseverance are characteristics well worth developing, as they often make the small difference between those who fail and those who succeed. Have you ever considered using your negative emotions to enhance you willingness to keep going and never give up? I love doing this! The good thing about this method is there is never a short supply of negativity! ;-) To channel into something more positive.


Perseverance
Intense negative emotions are great to transform into something that will benefit you rather than defeat you. So the next time you are feeling really angry, really worked up about something, really sad, put that energy into whatever goals you are trying to achieve. Remember to enjoy the dream achieving process as success is merely the progressive realization of a worth while dream.


Act Now
Go to the gym and work with that emotion, you will be slimmer in no time! Where you are looking to improve the relationship, plan something nice and surprising for that person. Where you are looking to achieve more, have a fresh look at your dream project/goals and take the next step, however small that step maybe! Act now because the time is always now.