Follow Your Joy, it is NOT that complicated.

                                                                Live the Moment

Being in the now is what happens when you realize a simple truth, this moment is the only thing we really have. The past is gone, we can’t change it in any way. The future is just that, the future! No point to try to deal with it now. And no amount of worrying about it will ever change the fact that we just don’t know what the future will bring. That leaves us here. A wise place to BE.

Follow Your Joy

The power of joy is clearly underestimated in this world. Have you also allowed yours to slip away! When was the last time you allowed yourself to feel fantastic!? Happy and content ,for no reason what so ever, other than the fact that you are alive. I hope you will give yourself permission to start accessing those feelings right now. Go on you know you want to!

Find What Makes You Happy

I learnt to have a great respect for this kind of internal joy, that needed nothing or no one to exist! And when I was out of the actual act of meditation I noticed joy stuck around as long as I did things that supported my pursuit of happiness!  Follow your joy, do things that make you happier, notice I did not say do things that you like! Because what we like doesn’t always make us happier!

Look Within

We spend much of our time looking outward. Thinking that if we just fix this we will feel better or if we just change that we will be happier, or if we just get that dream job things will be perfect! The trouble is true contentment has nothing to do with what we have or don't have. It is more to do with where you put your focus.

Find Mangoes in a Banana Tree?

Looking outside us for peace and happiness is like trying to find mangoes in a banana tree. Or going into a deep underground cave to find the sun. Real contentment is an inner thing, which has NOTHING to do with the dramas and ups and downs of the roller coaster ride we call LIFE.

Expand Your Joy

When you accept the good in you, the peace in you, the light in you is far greater than the I, the me, the ego. 

THAT’S when you start to live in freedom and can free yourself from the unnecessary suffering that comes from the delusion of the I.

Resolving conflicts gracefully.

How Do We Resolve Conflict?

It is a very good question indeed! With diversity of cultures and experiences becoming so rich in the workplace and social environment it is a question worth exploring. Whether we like it or not these days we really need to learn skills that help us to navigate waters when conversation takes an unfortunate turn

Do you hate arguments?

Learning these skills could help you at work, in social settings or with your family, yet how many of us are even willing to admit that it is worth the effort to learn these kind of skills? We seem to dislike arguments and conflict so much that we just think they should not happen at all, but is that not a little naive? It is something to aspire to that is for sure but what can we do when it happens.

It takes two to tango

How can we navigate ourselves gracefully through these uncomfortable circumstances and experiences? What can we do to take responsibility for our involvement in the conflict? You may want to start with something simple to empower yourself in these situations. "Do not be so surprised when it happens." You are a human and not a robot. The joy in that being, that we can develop our emotional intelligence!

Accepting Conflict as Human Nature?

Clearly non of us want to spend our time fighting and arguing with other people. Yet pretending like everything is hunky-dory just to keep the peace can also have negative effects. If we can accept that people will have different opinions and view points, not matter how different or distasteful their opinions may appear to us, this would already put us in a more open state of mind to resolve the conflict as swiftly as possible.

Embracing Diversity

Is it really easier said than done? With self awareness and belief we can achieve and do just about anything we set our mind to. If you accept that others have the right to their opinions, however odd they maybe. It will be easier to accept them and also much easier to deal with a conflict of opinion when one arises.

We do not need to agree to be agreeable

I will be putting into effect a little experiment with myself. Consciously choosing to gather as many different opinions on as many of the subjects that are very important to me. And seeing if i can stay agreeable in the face of disagreement. Yes it is frustrating and even somewhat annoying when we don't always find ourselves agreeing with what other people have to say. Yet having said that this is also 2013 and everyone has an opinion on everything so we better just get used to it and it might actually catapult us into a new level of communication! 

Facing New Challenges?

Worrying will not help you

When life gives you lemons make lemonade. There is just something wonderfully simplistic and totally doable in this concept. It just makes me smile. Worry has never been a problem solver, it may even contribute to the challenge when left to run wild and free. How to stop it in its gleeful but destructive path?  

Reframing Reframing is a great and simple way to stop worrying. If you are worried about something like getting fired. Try reframing it into this, new doors are opening. When a new door opens it makes us sit up in curiosity and pay attention. It makes us more open and present in the moment. It perhaps even adds excitement and flavor to an otherwise mundane and predictable existence.  Embrace the journey Every moment of living is a gift. Whatever happens, try to make it about the journey, the adventure and the game of life. NOT about the end goal. Every moment holds its own special experience, waiting for you to inhale wholeheartedly. Experiences you can shape and define by discovering your immense inner potential and power.

Be Yourself, peace is easy when you know where to look.

One deadly misconception that limits many in the Eastern and Western spiritual scene, whether it is new age philosophies or religious philosophies, is the idea that it is very difficult to know true freedom from our negative feelings, beliefs, desires and emotions. Nothing could be farther from the truth!

Another area that leaves many seekers stuck or want-to-be seekers put off, is the confusion and lack of clarity around what role the teacher has in helping them realize this freedom from personal suffering. Whether you consider your teacher to be Jesus Christ, Muhammed, Buddha, Osho, Papaji, John Doe or your local minister combined with any of the above, you would be wise to know exactly what role they should be playing in your quest for inner peace and daily happiness. So you can truly grow and not be limited by them or their followers in any way.

We all have the potential to be empowered, to wake up and to be enlightened, because it is our birthright. It is not something special, elite and unreachable, bestowed upon a chosen few. This is just another shameful misdirection to keep control and manipulate you into being a follower, rather than blossoming into a powerful leader.  Remember leading is not just about leading other people - it's just as much about leading yourself. Leading yourself out of a life of unawareness, dishonesty and negativity, into a life of self-awareness, integrity and positivity. Do this and you will become a great inspiration to every one around you.

Do not let the achievements of others distract you or make you believe that happiness and real greatness is an impossible goal for you to reach out for, or that you could never attain profound peace in your daily life while living an ordinary and simple life. We don’t all need to become a Mother Teresa or a Dalai Lama to greatly affect the world and inspire the people around us. I come from the "keep it simple" school of philosophy and aspire to this; to bring the best attitude to each day, to each moment. To give my full heart to everything that I do, even the simple mundane tasks of life can be performed with the greatest care, heart and attention to detail. That’s what makes your life become a continuous meditation, a dance with divinity, a sacred pilgrimage.

The Gift of Life

Be the best you can be in the here and now, and fully embrace the gift we take for granted - life itself. Without life and a body to experience the world through, is there really any point to all this madness and chaos life can appear to be? Without life itself, that house you worked your butt off to pay for, may just as well be a sandcastle on the beach. Without life itself the bachelor’s degree that you gave up every pleasure to achieve may just as well be used as fancy wallpaper.

What am I trying to say here? Do everything you love and enjoy doing for the sheer joy of giving your best to everything you do. Live with passion and intensity and do not lose your joy of living for more material possessions. Do not lose your ability to laugh, be playful, kind, and feel deep contentment just to own a house in a “dream world.” Receive life with open arms and full awareness of each new moment as it is happening and unfolding. Have the courage to do only that, which brings joy to your heart. In this way, you can be an inspiration to others.

Do not underestimate the importance of your positive attitude, high spirits and enthusiasm to live. It is worth more than any amount of money. Ask your friends and family if you don't believe me, or better still ask yourself. Find a path that will allow you to have it all; financial security, success and happiness because you love what you do. Remember you can greatly influence your outer reality by what you think and believe is possible. Wake up to the now. Wake up from the dream of time and start living in the now. You will be relieved and empowered.

Each day you have to breathe, you can create something special, joyful and loving around you. It does not matter how poor or rich you are, this moment, like death, doesn't care about that. It offers empowerment to all those who seek its truth. Allow this truth to become a fire in your life that burns away all illusions of time. Being in the now is freedom from the suffering of the past and also freedom from the fear and uncertainty of the future, which of cause may never come.

The more people that could wake up to the power of the now, the more love, compassion and acceptance we would start manifesting into this amazingly beautiful, dreamy and magically crazy world of ours.

Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill is a great read that tells you a lot about how you can use thinking to do, be and achieve what ever your heart desires. The concept is that belief can shift, change and alter reality. Creating miracles through perseverance and a determination that comes from mental prowess and cultivating a winning attitude. The phenomenon of positive thinking is not a new concept and yet implementing its power into our daily lives is still a foreign concept to most mere mortals!

How can we become better at positive thinking? How can we easily shift our focus on the positive? The answer is very simple, focus on how you feel. Try to keep adjusting your focus so you feel good in this moment. When you feel good, you will naturally have more positive thoughts.

There are really only two ways to feel in the now, varying levels of good( great, awesome and off the Richter scale amazing!! and so on) and varying degrees of bad ( sad, worried, depressed and so on) How we feel choose to feel is totally in our hands. Where you put your focus now, will greatly affect how you feel.

Focus on all the good things in your life and you will feel better. Train yourself to feel good in the now and you will automatically become a more positive thinker and therefore increase your ability to use your most powerful instrument(your brain) more effectively.

We freely and happily invest in food, clothing and grooming and yet when it comes to investing time into our spiritual and emotional well-being we are suddenly too busy or find other excuses. The funniest excuse being I don't need to do that! All your efforts towards success will fail when your head is constantly taking you full speed down negative lane, so investing in your internal  wellbeing will give you access to a powerful ability to manifest your desires and live a truly joyful life.

Clarity of mind is important and comes from knowing how to take charge of your inner mental and emotional dialogue. Meditation is undoubtedly one of the most effective (and dare I say fun and easiest!!) ways to take charge of your mind because you are working with the most natural and powerful cure, "silence". Silence is to the soul what water is to the body, expose yourself to it and feeling good in the now will become your natural state in daily life. Invest in your well-being and thrive.

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